My advice on How Do You Fix Low Self Esteem, begins with The Paradox, how people get trapped in low self esteem; then we move on to Judgement, secure attachment; and finally, How I Fixed Low Self Esteem, and how following Jesus’ commandments around being triggered, just lowered my anxiety to the point, where I felt super good self esteem.
The Paradox
It literally is a trap, and Ima prove it.
Because people feel low self esteem, they don’t go for the things they want in life.
Without heading towards the things you want, taking steps and just trying to get there, you won’t have self-esteem.
The journey towards self-esteem and the journey towards a goal, are one and the same. The problem is one can’t embark on a journey towards a goal, without self-esteem, and the person won’t have self-esteem without the goal.
Hence, the person is trapped in a cycle, of low self-esteem.
My advice w absolutely be, so start w a small goal. Self esteem is a journey. Start w the largest goal that your self esteem will allow.
Judgement
I needed to take that step, tho judgment was in my way.
I felt uncomfortable around people who had achieved their dreams. This is bc of judgement. It was hard to believe that I could have that, that I could be like them.
They had high levels of self esteem. This made them seem special.
So, this is how it works; when I put other people below me, I put myself, below them.
Jesus says
‘Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way as you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
What this means is that, bc I put some people below me; I felt that I was below some people, I was below those who had achieved great things.
I find that the less I put people below me, the less I feel below, the people I want to be.
This allows me to just see myself as them, and give myself permission to go for the things they have. I have the green light, to go full tilt, getting after the things I want. This is another answer to my question of, How Do You Fix Low Self Esteem.
Secure attachment
Self esteem, for me, is believing I can have what I want out of life. This is also called secure attachment.
It is when I feel that I ask for something, and it is reasonable, I w get that thing.
My inner world is my outer world. Low self-esteem, was really a condition where, my outer world, felt, like it wasn’t gonna provide what I needed. My outer world is the world, in which I live.
I also have an inner world though; which is the world that my mind creates.
The problem is when my inner world, paints an outer world, that is cruel.
By changing my Inner world, I actually changed my outer world. I made the world around me, seem, like it w give me anything I needed.
Now, I truly have great, self esteem. So the answer is changing my Inner world, so that it improves my outer world.
How I Fixed My Low Self Esteem
There were a few things that I did to fix my low self esteem.
The first thing w to work on my anxiety. The method I used was to just clear my mind of painful thoughts when anxious. I kept myself as present as possible.
There are numerous methods to reduce anxiety, please may you google how to lower anxiety. Tho be warned, some of these techniques literally don’t work, so on trying them, if they are not a good fit, let them go.
For me, it all comes down to being free from anxiety. This is how I fixed my low self esteem. The other thing I did, was to pursue my dream of starting a business; and stick with it long enough to just start believing in it.
Being totally present, rly is the answer to low self esteem. All low self esteem is caused by anxiety. It interrupts the feeling part of the mind. Now my feelings can come through fully, my self esteem is full.
Pure presence is self esteem. When I am fully feeling my feelings I feel full self esteem.
I Only Doing Things That Align W My Values
When I dropped a business model that did not align with my values, I started feeling self esteem. This w rly the first time I felt it, and it just has been getting stronger ever since.
Everyone has different values. Values are actually an energy. It was whether what I w doing, felt good. This good feeling grew and became self esteem. How do you fix low self esteem? This helps a lot.
Following Jesus’ Commandments
This w absolutely major. My anxiety w down to a fairly good level. When I started to follow the commandments of do not judge, and do not worry, when having anxiety, I found that that w the point that my anxiety got down to such a low level that my self esteem fully came through.
Judging people and God, and worrying about the pain I w in, perpetuated my anxiety. When I stopped doing this, it got well better. One of the main things I did w to forgive, when I had a panic attack. I aim to do this every time.
So, how do you fix low self esteem, it’s rly just reducing anxiety. I w add that judging people causes massive anxiety actually. How do you fix low self esteem, not judging is gonna be vital.
It takes a while, judgement for me was very deep rooted in my mind, now it is gone, honestly it is so powerful, when it comes to being calm and relaxed all the time, Ima be real w you, this is key.
Miss K 